BePure’s Real Read series is here to inspire, shining a light on people in our community who have transformed their wellness - mentally and physically. We know that wellness is never a result of one thing, but what we do know is that it does take a level of focus, intent and ongoing action. So, we’re sharing their stories in the hope it will create a beautiful ripple that inspires more people, or perhaps get us to take a look at how we can transform our own wellness and lives.
In this week’s Real Read, Simone Housby told us all about her experience with menopause and how she managed and navigated the myriad experiences that come with it.
I was about 49 when I started to miss every third period, and after about a year every second period. A year after that they stopped altogether. In a lot of ways, that made me feel quite sad. I had my only child when I was 29 and soon after that my marriage fell apart. I really mourned not having other children. When I was 42 I remarried but I was scared to try having another child because my son was born with learning difficulties and having another was overwhelming to me.
When it came to knowing what to expect regarding menopause, I only knew what I had read about it. I was adopted and my adoptive parents were much older, meaning they were perhaps a bit more old fashioned so weren't very forthcoming with conversations around health and things like menopause especially.
I had experienced anxiety for many years prior to menopause. Because of this I was expecting that menopause would add to this stress in insurmountable ways, but I’ve been lucky so far as that hasn’t happened! But that’s not to say I’ve managed to get through it unscathed.
For three years after my last period I didn’t experience any signs of menopause. I was quietly hopeful that I had managed to avoid them altogether but then they arrived all at once! Hot flushes, anxiety, insomnia - it was awful. I hadn’t really known what to expect but I was wondering in the back of mind if I would be able to cope and, in truth, when those signs did come, I didn’t feel like myself anymore.
What has helped is talking to my friends. We talk about what works for us, what doesn’t, our specific experiences which are all different. I really encourage others to get comfy with having those chats, they’re so great for normalising your situation and not feeling so alone! A lot of friends have great tips too. My big recommendation to everyone is BePure’s MenoCalm. It's been so helpful for my insomnia and while I take medication for my anxiety, and have for years, it wasn't enough. One good thing that has come from going through menopause is that I think I’ve found a million dollar business idea... we need sheets that are designed half winter (for my husband) and half summer (for me) since I get so hot at night!
I talked to my doctor and we did look into hormone replacement but because of my family history of breast cancer it wasn't recommended, so it’s worth exploring all options as what will fit for someone, might not fit for you.
Weight is another factor of menopause that I need to take into consideration and, for me, I’ve found that following a diet of a mix of good fats, high-quality protein, and low carbohydrate really works for me. Coupled with a love of walking, this helps me manage my weight and I find I have more energy than when I don’t follow this plan. I lost 28kgs this way and my husband lost 36kgs! MenoCalm contains ashwagandha, but I love it so much I like to top up with extra for a good night’s sleep. It’s funny because if I ever run out of either, my husband can tell, even if I haven’t told him!
If there’s one thing I would tell any other person experiencing these signs of menopause, it’s don’t suffer in silence! There’s so much help available both by talking and getting advice, as well as supplements.The more we talk about it, the more the stigma can be done away with. I don’t agree with the idea that we’re being unreasonable, I have had fabulous support: an understanding doctor, my husband is great and my friends are all happy to talk about their experiences.
- Visit our blog What Everyone Needs to Know About Menopause. We cover the menopausal transition, plus 7 steps to easing into and through menopause.
- Take our quiz to get a top-level look at where your hormones are at and suggestions on how to support them
- Try some nourishing adaptogenic herbs to support you through the transition with InnerCalm, MenoCalm, and CycleCalm